Question Prom: Asking a girl

[Bj]

I only have one bit of advice to offer...

Prom is well a semi-important dance for HS but a dance is just a dance.

Now if you are trying to take someone you like, and if you are planning on making that evident, then make sure that she likes you back. Otherwise, your friendship will be torn and quite possibly you will just end up with a lot of hurt inside. Especially if you think the world of her, and she doesn't give a ---- about you.

 

[Hielor]

I asked a girl to a dance in High School and she laughed in my face. It was humiliating and painful, but I regret it far less than the girls I liked, but didn't ask. With her, at least I don't have to wonder if I missed an opportunity for something good.

As they say, Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained.

So true.

And more importantly, if a girl rejects you (especially by laughing), you have learned one very important thing: she was not worth dating in the first place. Better to learn that sooner than to spend a long time thinking about being with someone and making them (in your head) into something they are not and then to have your dream-world roughly shattered.

 

[Kaito]

True, so True.
I think i'll talk to her tomorrow, see what I can gain. Then during Orch, i'll ask one of her friends if she has a boyfriend. Try to gain some info that way

 

[Bj]

Better to learn that sooner than to spend a long time thinking about being with someone and making them (in your head) into something they are not and then to have your dream-world roughly shattered.

Too bad I didn't read that a while ago. Good tip though

and good luck to Kaito

 

[simonpro]

Prom seems to put an incredible amount of pressure on everyone, I assumed it was supposed to be fun!

Anyway, as the others have said: Just ask her, and act confident. Girls are much more likely to say yes to a guy who appears confident than they are to one who comes up and goes "err, um, would, errr, you like to, um, go to, aaaah, prom?"
You don't actually have to be confident (hardly any men are when approaching a women), you just have to look confident.

Just think: The worst thing that she can say is 'no'. It's not a big deal, it happens to everyone. Absolutely everyone has been knocked back by a girl.
What's the best that could happen? You get a date to prom! Super

 

[tblaxland]

I actually went stag (that is, by myself) to our high school formal after being knocked back by a girl. There was no pressure, I danced with plenty of girls (including the one who knocked me back) and had the time of my life.

 

[Hielor]

I actually went stag (that is, by myself) to our high school formal after being knocked back by a girl. There was no pressure, I danced with plenty of girls (including the one who knocked me back) and had the time of my life.

+1 to this. Although going stag is a whole lot more fun if you're going with a group of your friends, rather than just alone.

 

[tblaxland]

+1 to this. Although going stag is a whole lot more fun if you're going with a group of your friends, rather than just alone.

Agreed. I did have friends there but we weren't organised as a group, as such.

BTW, Kaito, what happened to this girl?
http://www.orbiter-forum.com/showthread.php?p=91348

 

[Ghostrider]

Bring flowers or a small gift.

 

[Kaito]

lol, tblaxland, that girl lives in Arizona. Me, Wisconsin.

 

[V8Li]

Well, here (I mean in my country, we're latins) we (I mean students) don't take serious this kind of stuff; highschool spans from 9th to 12 grade and me and my friends went to every one we could, both organised by my highschool and others; just got a table, spend as much as we had (enough to have the whole school talk about us the next day since we always had the biggest bill and/or were too drunk - not a good advice :lol: ), dance with the girls and ask them do whatever we felt afterwards... It was never such a big deal and we ALWAYS had fun; I mean... what can go wrong?

Now, I know it's a big deal there, you hire limousines and stuff like that. And you might really care what others think, especially in that important night. So if you go to that girl in front of the whole class and ask her out and she's with her idiot girlfriends (that's what they usually are) and tells you god-knows-what and makes you fell like hell you won't have a great time at the prom, maybe won't even go. So my point is it really depends on the type of person you are, your friends, her friends, how she is, the circumstance you're asking her etc. Really, I'd say go and talk to her but you know better than most of us. You must have an idea of what she's like and how she treats people. And one more advice from me: if you do ask her do it when she's with one, maybe two persons (preferably girls that she's comfortable around- that way you can be sure she's not with her boyfriend anyway :speakcool: ) or even better when she's alone. It'll be easier for both, regardless if she'll accept or not.

Good luck!

 

[trokkes]

:lol: Ouch
I'd have read Porn instead ...

My dirty mind ...

Anyway, GOOD LUCK

 

[Eagle]

Bring flowers or a small gift.

If she says yes, ask her what color her dress is a few days later. Then order a corsage that matches her dress for prom night.

No other gifts are necessary. Assuming you're wearing a tux she should get some flower for you to wear that matches her dress. The cummerbund on your tux should match her dress too.

 

[PhantomCruiser]

Just Do It...

Oddly enough it was a Bo Jackson Nike add in Rolling Stone that convinced me to ask a really cute girl out. We've been married for 16 years now, and I've got a daughter in high school.

When I was a junior, one of the most beautiful girls in school sat at home for prom because nobody asked her. She was devastated to miss her own prom, and I was stunned that nobody stepped up to the plate.

No kidding big guy, just do it. There is a line from Shakespeare, "...Fortune favors the bold...", you've got a lot of support here on the forum from what I've read so far, let us know how it turns out.

 

[Brad]

or in words of great proverb, "nothing ventured, nothing gained."

 

[Zatnikitelman]

"life's too short"
Hmmm...thanks guys for helping me too. My serotonin levels have taken a big hit reading this topic, but I hope I learned something. I've got several chances she and I might end up in the same classes next semester or two and so I'm not going to waffle around and wait. I'll hit the engines, go for the high Dv low rendezvous time solution and talk to her within the first few days of whatever classes we may have together. I can't wait forever, and college is moving along fast!

 

[Moonwalker]

Better ask or you might be single for almost 13 years, like it is the case for me. The other thing is that life can be just too short to potentially miss a good opportunity...

 

[Urwumpe]

Asking is sure the smallest of all problems. The tough parts start when she says "yes".

Luckily, the fun is exactly opposite - asking her is rarely seen as fun for most guys (Which I can understand, but guys, this can be overcome), while the busy part is boosted with high motivation and fun levels.

 

[Krys]

And now from a woman's pov; ask, most of us will let you down as gently as possible if we aren't interested and if we are... I actually got sick of waiting for guys to ask me, so I asked them

 

[Kaito]

HOLY CRAP A FEMALE!!!
Welcome to the board!

Wow, its nice to hear that from all you guys...I received a bad grade on a math test, so today I felt kinda down and didn't ask her to a date...but now I'll have more time to think about what to ask her to.

I love you guys ^^